The Importance of Sacred Time: Creating Space Just for You

The Importance of Sacred Time: Creating Space Just for You

Have you ever asked yourself, Do I have sacred time just for me? This came up in a recent client session, and it’s a question that resonates deeply with many of us. We’re so conditioned to show up for others without hesitation — preparing meals for the family, keeping the kids entertained, playing therapist when someone’s had a rough day, setting boundaries as the kids navigate their world, maintaining a clean home, contributing financially, and then, if we still have any energy left, being a romantic partner. But where, in all of that, are we showing up for ourselves?

I don’t think I’ve had a single session with a female client where this hasn’t surfaced. We almost wear it as a badge of honor — putting everyone else’s needs before our own. The idea of self-sacrifice is often seen as heroic, but where does that leave us? Tired, drained, and perhaps even resentful. And here’s the thing: most women know that they should prioritize themselves, that they should “fill up their cup,” but that knowledge remains theoretical until action is taken.

That’s where sacred time comes in.

What Is Sacred Time?

Sacred time is intentional time carved out just for you — and it’s non-negotiable. This isn’t about sneaking in five minutes of rest here and there; it’s about dedicating time, whether it’s part of your morning routine or a once-a-month ritual, that is solely for your own nourishment.

Why Sacred Time Matters

We often fool ourselves into thinking that our "free" time can be spent catching up on unfinished tasks — errands, household chores, or work projects. But sacred time is different. It’s about truly nourishing your mind, body, and soul. It’s not a time for doing the jobs you didn’t have time for during the week; it’s a time for doing what makes you feel whole and recharged.

When we allow ourselves this sacred time, something shifts. We show up better in our relationships and roles because we’re not operating from a place of depletion. It’s easier to be patient, compassionate, and loving when we feel those things for ourselves first.

How to Create Sacred Time

1. Make It Non-Negotiable: Your sacred time should be set in stone. Whether it’s 15 minutes every morning or a full day once a month, treat it like an appointment you cannot miss.

2. Communicate Its Importance: Talk to your family and partner about what this time is for and why it matters to you. When they understand that this time is essential for your well-being, they’ll be more likely to support it.

3. Respect Your Partner’s Sacred Time: It’s also essential to create space for your partner to have their own sacred time. FIFO life will never be perfectly equal, but making sure both partners’ needs are met can help prevent feelings of resentment from building up.

4. Use This Time Wisely: Sacred time is for nurturing yourself. It’s not about running errands or catching up on unfinished work. Spend this time doing something that nourishes you — whether that’s meditating, journaling, going for a walk, reading, or engaging in a creative hobby.

The Power of Sacred Time in FIFO Life

In FIFO life, equality in roles between partners is rarely possible. One partner is often away for extended periods, leaving the other to manage everything at home. This imbalance can lead to feelings of frustration or even anger, especially if you’re not getting any time for yourself. That’s why sacred time becomes even more vital — for both you and your partner.

If you’ve been feeling unsupported or stretched thin, take a step back and ask yourself: Do I have time just for me? Often, that frustration stems from not carving out space for yourself. Sacred time helps ensure that you are meeting your own needs first, so that you can better meet the needs of others without feeling resentful.

When Is Your Sacred Time?

So, when is your sacred time, and how do you spend it? It’s time to take action. Don’t wait for the perfect moment to prioritize yourself — create that moment. Whether it’s a daily ritual or a monthly recharge, this time for yourself is just as important as all the other roles you play in life. Because when you show up for yourself, you show up better for everyone else.